Wednesday, September 9, 2009

just right

some people know just what to say as they enter into the messiness of people's lives. maybe you need a dose of the wise, sweet or funny encouragement of some of my friends. enjoy!

"i won't tell you what you want to hear or try to down play the difficulty of this season. there is no amount of sugar coating that will make things better or less real. but i will tell you that if you make it through this difficult season, you'll be able to say with full confidence whether these God promises are worth it... you'll be able to know first hand if He is real and near in the goods and bads of life. most people who walk this life of faith never have the chance to truly test His faithfulness and petition for His closeness. but whether or not you wanted it, you now have the chance to test Him and find if He really is all we've hear Him to be. that alone may be all that there is to cling to sometimes, but i hope it is enough. i hope He proves to be more than you imagined, i hope you find more than you could have fathomed. but i don't know... i have never been where you are. i have never had to ask the questions you are asking. i have never tested the truths you're questioning. so i offer not my words or my wisdom, but my support to you as you search... i offer my prayers as you see... i offer my love as you hurt."

"i swear, everytime i read your emails it reminds of anne of green gables. ha. just the way she tells her stories and writes. love it. why do i like that movie so much? well, i am sorry you are so sick these days and know that God has a plan for all of this craziness. i know you hear that a lot--but from the heartache i went through the last year, i realized that God's plan sometimes takes us through the mud to get us where He wants us to be...perhaps for something better than we could imagine."

"You are a woman of great courage and impact... reminds me of the story told in Thornton Wilder's play The Angle that Troubled the Waters... with the Angle telling a stricken physician "Without your wounds, where would your power be?... In Love's service, only wounded soldiers can serve"."

"My heart goes out to you, but not in a sad way, in a happy way b/c I know you embrace life and whatever it gives you. You give that encouragement to many. In times when maybe we should not complain, we should realize what we have been given my God and appreciate it. It's like a few weeks ago when I was running on the track, complaining of having to run during my training for the upcoming half marathon. Right beside me were two runners with metal legs, you know those cool running ones? If they can do it, why can't I and I should not complain. There are so many things we complain about in life, but in reality, we need not. I love you Leah and know that you will do whatever it takes and so will God. I will pray for the things you asked for and then some. For you to be brave and not worry about what God has in store for you. You are loved and always will be!"

what type of friends do you have surrounding you? what messages do you let filter through your brain into your heart? it makes all the difference in the world, literally!


Tuesday, July 21, 2009

the story of jaylee's name

Hey crew! We've had several friends and family ask for the story of Jaylee's name. So, we thought we'd share an email we sent out right after she was born. Enjoy!

We are honored to introduce to you our beloved daughter, given to us from our Most High, through the sacrifice of some truly beautiful people, Jaylee's birth parents. It will take us a life time to understand the love and sacrifice all mixed up in this treasure. Jaylee's life is truly a beautiful story.

Jaylee Ann Paige Graves
8lbs 20 1/4inches
Born at 2:45pm on Saturday, March 21st, 2009

The story of Jaylee's name:

Jaylee: Jason + Leah = Jaylee. Plus, it represents so many special men in her life > Jason and his dad's middle name is "Lee", my dad's middle name is "Jay" = Jaylee. Jaylee is a derivative of a name that means "Smiling". Jaylee's birth mom is a smiling soul and we know that Jaylee will be also.

Ann: Both of our mom's, Jaylee's grandmas names are "Ann". Although Jason's mom spells it "Anne".
Her first name is "Jaylee Ann".

Paige: Our beloved Paige will always be a part of our home. She and the birth father have given us a gift that cannot be repaid. Their sacrifice is our treasure. It doesn't seem fair that it has to work this way. Also, some friends from college said goodbye to their precious Cora Paige. Although we never met Cora, her story painstakingly reminds us that Jaylee (and Benson) is not ours - she belongs to the Lord. Each day we're given is a gift from the Lord.

And, lastly we'll leave you with a passage that has a whole new meaning with the addition of our daughter, Jaylee, and her birth story. Even if you know this passage, we encourage you to read through it with us here in celebration of Jaylee's life.

Psalm 139

1 O LORD, you have searched me
and you know me.

2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.

3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.

4 Before a word is on my tongue
you know it completely, O LORD.

5 You hem me in—behind and before;
you have laid your hand upon me.

6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.

7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?

8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,

10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.

11 If I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,"

12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.

13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.

15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,

16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.

17 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!

18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

things we've been doing


benson is an engineer - "a hhuuuge tower".


Benson's constant state of bed head.


"I'm the cutest girl that ever lived - did you know that?
My mommy calls me 'pumpkin strudel'".


"My daddy loves me ... A LOT!!!"

Sunday, May 24, 2009

wondering




are you wondering where I am? me too!

the graves crew is doing spectacular and enjoying life as the four of us! we've weathered several changes in the last few months and they have all been amazing. Jaylee, of course, is the best. we've also changed jobs and little b turned two (the most interesting change). all of these changes have left us living life more. living out of who we were created to be and allowed us to 'throw off' some things that were holding us back. so, we've been buckled in and enjoying our season of change.

benson's new things: teaching jaylee to eat paper, telling mommy "no thanks mommy, benson's in a bad mood", he carries a senior picture around of his cousin Jackie (actually Jason's cousin) and shows it to his friends and calls her "my friend JACKie", he likes to pick out his clothes, he goes poopoo in the potty occasionally, loves wearing his dino undies, sleeps in a big bed and scares the heck out of mommy when i find his big blue eyes starring at me in the middle of the night, counts to 10, has all of our extended family and many friends' names memoriezed, he loves playing with other kids, and he LOVES playing outside all day long!

jaylee's new things: cooing and smiling, she loves to go out side for a bit, still loves the butt-patt, she burps as loud as mommy, her big blue eyes and gorgeous red hair melt her mommy and daddy's heart, she moves all over the place when she's sleeping - she definitely loves to move, she's a long lady - i have to put her in dresses mostly because her torso is too long for fitted clothes, she handles benson's intense loving really well - undergoes millions of kisses and snuggles from big brother, basically, Jaylee is amazing. If you haven't gotten to snuggle her, you're missing out. :)

all the pictures are from our first annual "Jaylee Day" on May 4th. we finalized jaylee's adoption. we are elated and honored to call Jaylee our daughter and formalize the commitment we already had for her in our hearts in front of a Judge. the final comment from the Judge was "I find Mr and Mrs Graves morally excellent to adopt Jaylee as their daughter". these words have enchoed in my heart ever since. they are healing words, for sure!

anywho, we're still here, alive and thriving ... just maybe not as much in the blog world.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

a smidgen to whet the appetite








Sunday, March 29, 2009

coffeetalk and a little bit more




benson - 1 week away from being 2 years
jaylee - 4 days old














coffeetalk aunt mindy lou
and
baby jaylee
6 days old










coffeetalk aunt marisa
and
baby
jaylee













coffeetalk beauties: l to r:
marie / me / marisa and noah / heather









3 of 12 coffeetalk kiddos: marie's addison (3) / my benson (2) / heather's noah (1)











2 of the 3 newest coffeetalk babies:
ainsley (6 weeks)
and
jaylee

Friday, March 27, 2009

a new little tid bit

Benson calls Jaylee "jay baby".
She's only 2 days old and he's already in love with her.


precious, huh?